You know the quote about how your actions speak louder than words; well this is very true as a parent. I tell my kids all the time I love them, but what ways my actions show how true this is.
- Praise and Celebrate – Praise good behavior and choices that your kids make. Celebrate the little wins just as much as their big wins. Did your child show an act of kindness or get student of the week at school? Whatever it is show how happy you are either by sharing a Good Job high five or letting them have extra dessert after dinner.
- Hugs/Kisses/Snuggles – Yep, so simple give out plenty of hugs, kisses, and snuggles. I promise you will get them back.
- Says Yes – We are so quick to say no to everything outside of our set schedules or the way we want things to go as parents. Say yes sometimes. Say yes to letting them stay up an extra 5 minutes or say yes and let them help cook dinner, even say yes to let them wear that plaid shirt and polka dot pants.
- Create Habits/Traditions – Create family habits and traditions that are unique for your family. It can be a simple habit in the mornings by singing the days of the week. Make up a family tradition that you do on birthdays; it can be going to dinner at your favorite restaurant or taking a trip to the beach to celebrate.
- Engage – Give them your full attention as much as possible and stop multitasking. Listen when they are speaking, and make sure they understand, that what they are saying is important. Be actively involved in when it’s family time or when you are having one on one time. Ask questions and be genuinely interested in what is going on in their world.
- Encourage and Support – Encourage the choices they make. Teenagers need to be able to make certain decision and should receive encouragement and support. If you have a toddler, you know they want to do everything all by themselves, this should be encourage.
- Let Them Be Kids – The imagination is this great amazing place in childhood, let them enjoy that time with their imaginary friends. Make castles out of blankets in the living room, or play hide in seek in the closet. That mess is really not that big.
- Guide Them – When we offer guidance and not control, kids will more freely come to you for help and advice. Give them the right tools to make good life decisions.
- Make a Deposit in Their Emotional Bank – Give your child a gift for no reason at all. Write a quick note and place it in their book bag or lunch box. Send your preteen/teenager a text with a positive message. Let them decide what to eat for dinner or what movie to watch for family movie night.
- Be an Example – Be all the things you want you would like for your child to reflect. Be the example.
Peace & Blessing